No one wants their kids to be spoiled. I mean that literally. No one. Does even a single person actually say, “I hope my kids are all spoiled, entitled brats.”? Of course not. That’s what grandparents are for. But it’s not grandparents fault so many kids end up that way. The fact that my mom is always buying them new clothes or keeps a closet full of snacks at her house is not what makes them demand someone bring them food on the couch or whine when they have to pick up their own toys or complain about putting their iPad down for five minutes to eat dinner. No, I do that to them. Most parents do, and we do so in a very deliberate, systematic way, because we don’t actually consider what it means to be spoiled or how to prevent it.